Let's talk about "they/them" pronouns

[LikkleMel]

Another debate I'm sorry!!! 

I'm still learning about pronouns and the rules anyway because I honestly don't care what you call by by she/her/they/them as long as you don't say I look like a man I'm happy haha

I saw a post the other day on Facebook and now it has me concerned really, but I wanted your opinions. All opinions are allowed as long as we don't insult each other (which we never do here anyway).

The Post - "Calling someone they/them when you know their pronouns aren't they/them is misgendering"

What if I'm just used to calling everyone they/them because it is gender-neutral? But can gender-neutral now be classed as transphobic? Or is it someone just being a little bit too OTT about pronouns? 

[lolin]

if you know their pronouns, use 'em

if you know them and don't want to use them for safety's sake or you're gesturing to people whom you don't want others to know the gender of, use they/them

really i 'd think someone getting fussy over being referred to as they/them when their pronouns are she/her might be a lil bit stuffy but overall i'd just ask if you're unsure and go from there

[Akane Mayu]

im fine with both she/her and they/them though i do have a slight prefrence to they/them

but thats just me every persone is diffrent

[GraceMellody]

I think if you only refer to someone as them when you know they prefer she/he then that's a lil sus
but I think using it occasionally can be okay. It all just depends on context really