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Dear Fae,
I love my boyfriend so much, but he lives almost on the
other side of the world. I met him on AL,
and we’ve never actually met in person yet. Sometimes I feel like I
should just end it, I want to be with the person I love, and I can’t be
with him for a long time. Is it worth it to stay with him? What if he cheats
on me?
Dear random ALer.
Chances are, if you feel like you should end it, you
probably want to. Denial is indeed a terrible thing.
Long-distance relationships take a hell of a lot of
work, more so than “normal” relationships. But when they work
out, it can be very awesome. What you really have to be asking yourself here
is if you’re willing to put that effort in? Are you willing to have
little contact sometimes, or not be able to talk due to timezones? If the
answer is no, break up and find someone closer to you.
If he cheats on you, do what any normal person would do
and talk about why he did it, and go from there. It’s not that hard
really.
Dear Fae,
I think my girlfriend is cheating on me. What do I do?
Dear random ALer.
Confront her. If you have enough reason to believe that
she’s cheating and not just random happenings that could just be
coincidence, then don’t be passive-aggressive about it, just outright
ask her. Yes, it feels bad to put her on the spot, but confrontation, while I
think it should be avoided as much as possible, is sometimes totally
necessary. Good luck!
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Dear Fae,
Hi, I’m new to AL. I really don’t know how to fit
in. Everyone seems to belong to a group, and no one will talk to me. I want
to make friends, but I don’t know what to do. When I try to speak to
someone, they make fun of me, or ignore me. Will it always be like this? Is
it just certain forums? I’m afraid to go into Ramblings, it all goes so
fast, and the mods either act worse than the members, or act like
they’re better than everyone.
Dear random ALer.
First problem – you think you HAVE to fit in. You
don’t. What’s wrong with being yourself? Just go with who you
are, post within the rules and have a good time, eventually, people will get
to know you through your posts and maybe even get to know you off the forums.
There’s really nothing to it, no secret formula, no big secret,
nothing. Post in the areas you’re interested in and just have some fun!
Don’t let the bastards get you down
Dear Fae,
I’m trying my hardest, but I’m not doing
very well in school. My parents have threatened to ground me, take away my
internet and my phone until my grades come up but they don’t understand
that I’m trying as hard as I can. How can I make them see this?
Dear Random ALer.
I had this exact same problem when I was in school. Of
course, my answer was to drop out of school. I don’t suggest that one.
Explain in a calm and rational manner to your parents
that you are trying as hard as you can and that you think they’re being
slightly unfair. What I always thought helped was asking them to help you
with your homework. You get any help you might need and they get a look into
how hard you really are trying, thus giving them a bit of understanding about
your side of the situation.
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